One thing I struggle with, especially with insecurities that I have, is staying positive. Having a healthy and steady mindset is one of the most important aspects to living a rich and fulfilling life. A lot of my mental and spiritual healing has occurred through reading self help books, being mindful and present, setting realistic goals, relaxing and staying healthy.

A couple of books I recommend are Superbrain and Living Philosophies. Superbrain is an amazing book that explains the science of the brain, as well as negative mental habits we often fall into. It touches on the fact that we often let our brain control us, when we have the power to change our mindset and take control of our life. Living Philosophies is also a great book that quotes some of the most respected thinkers, including Albert Einstein, Freeman Dyson and many more. One of my favorite quotes from the book is by Aristotle, “Happiness turns out to be an activity of the soul in accordance with virtue.” It is an eye opening book that helps enrich the mind and soul.

On a daily basis, there are little tricks I use to help me stay positive. One is being aware of my thoughts and feelings. It is important to make the most out of the present moment. Anxiety is often created by worrying about the future, while depression is a result of dwelling over the past. I use breathing techniques to help stay focused and content. Try to take time throughout the day to center yourself. Breathe in the good, exhale the bad. Make sure to take deep breaths into your stomach, inhaling through your nose and exhaling through your mouth. It allows you to slow yourself down and calm your thoughts! It can also be helpful to keep some motivational quotes in your back pocket, or even pin them on pinterest :)

If you are anything like me, I am absolutely NOT a morning person. Nope. However, waking up early is one major goal I have set for myself. In order to have the motivation to get up, I try to stay away from the snooze button. Once I hit that button, it is all down hill from there. I have found that positively welcoming the day is essential when you first wake up. Sleeping is great, believe me, but being awake and productive can also be very rewarding. Just take a second to wake up, stretch and take in the day. Really grasp onto that sense of well being. Once you are up, setting some realistic goals for yourself for that day can help you feel more accomplished as well. Start your day with good intentions and go to bed happy!

Another essential ingredient to staying positive is taking the time to recharge. There is something so calming about sitting at the beach watching the sun set, walking through a nature park on a warm summer day. It is so important to give yourself time away from all of the distractions in life, and taking in the beauty of the world around us. There is so much more to life than the tiny bubble we are often stuck in. It’s all about perspective.

Lastly, eating well and exercising really helps. Which I know you hear all the time but it is so true. When I eat late at night or don’t exercise for a while, my body starts to feel sluggish and my motivation goes right out the window. Having unhealthy diet can also feed your anxiety and depression. So putting thought into your daily health routine is worth it! I will post more details about how I stay healthy in other blogs :)

All in all, becoming aware of the present moment, finding inspiration, and staying healthy is a huge part to living a happier life. You can break an unhealthy cycle!! Just form new positive mental habits! And count your blessings. It really is about creating your own happiness and inspiring others around you.

Thanks for reading guys! The authors of the books I mentioned are written below.

Books Cited:
Superbrain by Rudolph E Tanzi Ph.D., Deepak Chopra
Living Philosophies by Clifton Fadiman


  • Love this blog. I always try to focus on the positive which isn’t always easy. I turn to positive quotes all the time as well as working out and eating right. Luckily, I am a morning person and get up early to work out before going to work. Then I try an post a positive quote to post up on the board at work for my students (I am an elementary school teacher). I also try to lead by example at work. Part of my job is to motivate my students which isn’t always easy.

    I also would like to add to your post that listening to music also can help a person stay positive. Music means a lot to me whether I am just listening to it or I am playing guitar.

    Discovering new music like yours has been a joy! Keep up what you are doing musically. You probably don’t realize that your music can have a positive impact on others.

    I enjoy your music :-)


    • Thank you Ron! Yes listening to music can definitely help a person stay positive. Love hearing your tips and ways you stay positive. It was great meeting you!

  • Cassaundra!
    I love your voice, sweetie girl!
    I am blessed by your music- it gives me hope and strength- and your wisedom about maintaining a healthy body sings to my soul! (I am a nurse).
    Absolutely! To all of the above! But- you remind me so much of myself at your age. My Mom set us free to explore “everything” that is in our world. At 53 this is what I believe- I believe tha Jesus is the way, and the truth, and the life (light). Jesus was a game-changer. I believe that so many people are missing his point, which was really very simple: Love God with all of your heart, and go forth and Love one another as I have loved you! There are So many “Christians” who are failing this test. He did not say go forth and love heterosexual people as I have loved you!.!.! I hope the end of your journey combines all of the wisedom of everything you are studying/believing and you find your way, coming full circle, back to the simple words of the savior of this world, Jesus Christ.
    I don’t know you but I love you, precious girl who I went to high school with your Dad. He is blessed, and because he has “shared” you with all of us, so are we!!
    With all my heart,
    Annie (Salem High School 1980)
    PS- Come to Boston!

    • Thank you for the response Annie! So glad to know you went to high school with my dad! And I would love to come to Boston <3

  • And your inner beauty continues with this site Cassandra. Kudos to you for opening a space to just BE. We are not taught how to F.L.Y (First Love Yourself) but as your generation continues to learn how and show others the same, you assist all of humanity in remembering who each of us are….spiritual beings (the purest essence of love) here on this earth as humans ushering in a new way of living. Heartfelt gratitude for who you are and all you do….for I AM another YOU ☆•❥•❥Love & Hugs•❥•❥ƸӜƷ☆

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